How to reprogram your mind

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In 2021, I started my transition from being REACTIVE → CREATIVE.

This transition demanded continuous conscious effort—and it still does—and it has proven to be the most valuable practice I've ever embraced.

By operating from a place of consciousness, I've discovered an agency I never knew I had.

I didn’t know what I didn’t know.

Consciousness

According to the Map of Consciousness—developed by Dr. David R. Hawkins—I spent most of my time unconsciously operating below ‘Courage’ (200).

While there is no right or wrong place to be on the scale of consciousness, I did spend an exorbitant amount of time and attention in frustration, desire, fear, guilt, and shame.

I genuinely thought that that was just how life is—I was so unaware that I had a choice. That I have an agency in creating my reality.

The impact of being unconscious

I used to be a social chameleon—frequently altering my behaviour and responses to match those around me.

This adaptability stemmed from a desire for acceptance and avoidance of conflict.

However, it often meant suppressing my true self and not honouring and expressing my authentic thoughts and feelings.

Being the creator of my life

The pivotal moment of realising I had a choice came when I made a significant investment in myself that I couldn’t afford– $25,000 for 10 sessions with my coach, Devon Bandison.

While not everyone needs to spend as much as I did—for both myself and many of my clients, this financial commitment served as a POWERFUL motivator.

It compelled me to wholeheartedly commit to my self understanding journey, because I had a tangible stake in the game. To me, that investment was my commitment to buying back my time, my freedom, and ultimately my life.

The results have been so remarkable that I would have genuinely paid ten times the investment. No sum of money can measure up to the inner peace I now have.

Today, I am operating above ‘Courage’ (200)—what feels like 95% of the time—and the world has transformed into an expansive playground.

Living and consistently, consciously creating from a foundation of love, joy, and play has been the most liberating and profoundly enriching experience of my life.

So much so that I continue to invest in myself with my coach as his apprentice—$85,000 for 70 Hours together—because I know I am only scratching the surface of what is possible in this life time, and I’m committed to turning my ceiling into my floor, again.

Worth noting

This is coming from someone who:

  • Used to spend HOURS scouring the internet in search of discount codes to save just $4.99 on shipping fees (2020)

  • Couldn't engage in a conversation about financial matters with her partner for more than 5 minutes without trembling with fear and eventually breaking down in tears (2021)

  • Watched her parents put in relentless effort, only to experience bankruptcy and the loss of our home (2006)

  • Spent over a decade in Khlong Toey คลองเตย—the largest and oldest slum of Bangkok—a story for another post (1995)

How to start in 3 simple steps

(01) Awareness

(02) Understanding

(03) Choosing

Awareness

(01)

The fundamental first step in reprogramming your mind is recognising your capacity to make choices.

Below is one of my favourite videos by Dr. Bruce Lipton on After Skool that has transformed the way I see the world. This is an excellent starting point to help cultivate new awareness around consciousness.

Understanding

(02)

Knowing that reprogramming one's mind is an ongoing journey that requires conscious and consistent effort.

It's a practice that's akin to maintaining your "abs" once you've developed them; it necessitates continuous dedication and attention to keep the positive changes in place.

Choosing

(03)

Neuroscience shows that you are what you give your attention to. Get clear on what’s on your mind—then choose a new choice.

Here are 3 simple steps:

  1. When this happens (identify trigger)

  2. Instead of (identify old habit)

  3. I will (clarify a new 60-second habit)

 

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

Viktor E. Frankl

 



Alternatively

Join my workshop

I run an online experience called Being° Together—designed for those who are ready to STOP being stuck and START creating a new internal operating system.

You will leave the experience with simple and effective tools to reprogram your mind. You will be Clear → Inspired → In Action

So I "failed"

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Storytime:

Back in January, I was looking for ways to be a better thinker.

My partner—who happens to be a best-selling author and an incredible thinker—said to me:

“If you want to think more clearly, write.”

Being the spontaneous multi-passionate creative force that I am, I—with little delay—committed to a 30-day challenge called ‘30 days of writing’ (a derivative from my previous ‘30 days of being’ project).

I announced this to my community on IG to create accountability for myself, and off I go being in action.

I never finished the challenge.

I stopped writing at day 9—and below are the insights I gained from the experience.

What I noticed:

  • Being in action—without overthinking—allowed me to quickly find that writing 30 short-form pieces doesn’t provide me the desired support.

  • I noticed that the brevity of the format led me to spend more time contemplating what to write, than actually writing.

  • Additionally, sharing my work with the community on Instagram created unnecessary pressure and effort in the process.

  • The focus on meeting the daily writing challenge became a distraction from the goal of consistently showing up and writing.

  • To establish a daily writing routine, the process in which I create must be simple and easy.

  • Most significantly, I realised I wanted to think more critically rather than solely expressing my thoughts clearly. This realisation created a shift in my writing approach and goals.

Did I know most of these insights prior to this experience?

Yes.

And knowledge is only a rumor until it is in the muscle.

The quality of my ‘knowing’ before this experience is not the same as the one I, now, have in my being.

What I did instead:

  • Instead of persisting with the 30-day challenge, I called it off and focused on writing about the insights I gained.

  • I dedicated 10 minutes to private writing for 30 days. This allowed me to focus on my thoughts without the pressure of sharing them immediately.

  • I said YES to podcast interviews to stimulate my critical thinking in a different format.

  • I actively engaged in rich dialogues with highly intelligent people to broaden my perspectives.

These alternative actions reflect a shift in my approach, prioritising personal growth, deeper reflections, and meaningful interactions over the previous writing challenge format.

So did I fail?

My previous self would have nodded aggressively and said:

“Yes, this is failure.”

My current self, though, would smile and say:

“This is feedback!”

I, now, know the importance of viewing setbacks and mistakes as valuable opportunities for learning and growth.

Instead of perceiving a situation as a failure, seeing it as feedback allows me to extract valuable lessons, make adjustments, and move forward with improved understanding and insight.

This perspective encourages me to embody resilience, adaptability, and a positive attitude towards challenges—fostering my personal and professional development.

My biggest takeaway:

Action creates clarity that goes beyond mere information—and encompasses a deeper understanding of the world and oneself.